México. Mary Jelkovsky era una influencer fitness que se dedicaba a inspirar a sus seguidores de Instagram gracias a su marcada musculatura y delgadez.

Pero un día decidió dejar de ser flaca para empezar a ser feliz. 

Mary se cansó tener que usar photoshop en sus fotos, tener que meter la panza y decidió optar por lo más natural, ser ella misma, disfrutar de la vida y dejar de lado los estereotipos arraigados. Ahora es plus size  y luce hermosa.

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“Stop worrying about whether you’re fat. You’re not fat. Or rather, you’re sometimes a little bit fat, but who gives a shit? There is nothing more boring and fruitless than a woman lamenting the fact her stomach is round. Feed yourself. Literally. The sort of people worthy of your love will love you more for this.” 💕 I had this quote as my background for many years during #edrecovery It helped me on the days when fighting the inner demon seemed too hard and I’d consider going back to the familiar. It helped me during my times of scrolling through social media feeling unworthy because I didn’t have her body, her boyfriend or her life. It helped me feed myself (mind, body, spirit) on the days when starving was all too tempting. Thank you @cherylstrayed for keeping me going during my deepest, darkest times. 🙏 . . Tag someone who could use this loving reminder. ♥️ . . . . #edrecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #loveyourself #selflove #bodyimage #selflovequotes #beyoutiful #cherylstrayed #bodylove #loveyourbody #allbodiesaregoodbodies #loveyourcurves

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Have you ever looked back at things and thought, “How the F did my life turn out like this???” I’ve had this moment twice in my life. First in May 2016 when I quit competing, lost all my friends, gained 45 lbs and moved to Canada with a 2 week’s notice to my family 👋(helllloooo quarter life crisis lmao) and another time last summer when I left the love of my life, closed my chapter in Canada, moved all my stuff to Arizona and flew to #Bali on a whim. ✈️ It’s funny how we have our whole life planned out and then the universe comes to course correct us like “NOPE, BITCH U DONT EVEN KNO WHATS IN STORE FOR U” 😅 But both turning points have been the hardest, yet the most healing, times of my life. If you’re going through a transition right now whether it’s a breakup, a move, a quarter/ mid-life crisis, recovery, a career change or simply a mindset shift, please know that nothing “happened” to your life. Your life is happening exactly as it should and the best is yet to come. ♥️ . . Have you ever gone through a big transition where your whole life was flipped upside down? 😬 . . P.S. If you want to join me on a #selflove transformation in Bali, there is a spot for you. 💕 Go to the link in my bio to get more info & apply…The best is yet to come (perhaps in Bali 😉). Xx . . . . #edrecovery #transitions #healingjourney #selflovejourney #becoming #selfloveisthebestlove #balibaby #baliretreat #selfcare #beyoutiful #bodyimage #curvyconfidence #embraceyourcurves

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THE REASON I’M AGAINST FITNESS👇 Note: I’m talking about the obsessive #fitspo lifestyle that I see all over social media NOT about a true active/healthy lifestyle. The left pic was me exactly 4 years ago before my first ever bikini competition. 👽 I went into it thinking that “fitness” would cure my eating disorder by keeping me “in control” but the reality was that fitness just became a safe haven for it. My life revolved around counting…calories, minutes doing cardio, pounds lost/ gained, time until I can eat again, etc. People would tell me that how admirable it is that I’m so “health-conscious” or “fit & dedicated” but that only made me feel MORE validated for my unhealthy obsession. When we feed into diet culture and society’s dumb beauty standards, we get praised for it. So naturally, when we say #effyourbeautystandards and choose #selflove, there will be a push back from society and people who don’t get it. They’ll tell you that you “let yourself go” or comment on your “health.” 🤦‍♀️ But that’s because their own beliefs about themselves are being questioned. Don’t listen to people who feel threatened by your self-love journey and remember that “fitness” is just another trend perpetuated by the current beauty standards. 🙏 . . Have you ever been praised for doing “fitness” even though you were silently suffering? 😬 . . . . #nobodyshame #losehatenotweight #selfacceptance #selfconfidence #loveyourbody #loveyourself #beautybeyondsize #allbodiesaregoodbodies #selflovejourney

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I’ve written about this before, but I used to be ashamed of all the different phases of me… I thought that I couldn’t be confident AND vulnerable…or sexy AND silly… or intelligent AND funny. I thought I had to be ONE thing in ONE box looking like this ONE “perfect” way. I was ashamed that I enjoyed sex so much. I’d hide the fact that I was really damn good at calculus. I didn’t want anyone to know my crazy goofy side where I talk in my fake accent and laugh hysterically (my laugh sounds like a hyperventilating frog lol! 🐸). So when I talk about letting go of restriction, I mean that in ALL ways. Stop restricting your food. Stop restricting your pleasure. Stop restricting your personality. I’m giving you permission, right here right now, to embrace ALL versions of yourself. 😍 . . Happy V-Day, babes! ♥️ Regardless of your relationship status I hope you give yourself some self-lovin’ 😉 . . And I have a blog post for ya with 8 tips to be #bodyconfident in the bedroom! 🔥🔥🔥 link in zeee bio! . . . . #nobodyshame #embraceyourcurves #honoryourcurves #selflove #loveyourself #selfloveisthebestlove #curvyconfidence #selfcare #valentinesday #selfconfidence #bodyconfidence #bopo #bodypositivity

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And babe, you gotta love yo’self. You gotta be there for yourself when it feels like no else is. You have to love who you see in the mirror even when society is telling you to inflate your lips, work out your butt and fix your tits. You must know when to walk away from shit that’s not serving you. You gotta take your makeup off before bed even when you’re tired AF and that’s last thing you wanna do. You have to invest in your growth even when finances are shit and you haven’t bought a latte in months. You gotta stop sacrificing for people who don’t do jack shit for you. You deserve to order the guac even when it’s $1 extra because screw it, your taste buds are worth more than a dollar. You have to dance naked in your room and sing at the top of your lungs while crying and laughing simultaneously because fuck, it’s so hard to be lonely. You have to be your own best friend, your own partner, your own lover, your own motherf*cking inspiration. You gotta love yo’self a little harder, babe, because you are worthy of more than you’ve been given. . . And yes, IT’S MY BIRTHDAY, BABIES! 🤗 Wish you could be here to eat cake and dance party with me 😭 But I know you’re here with me at heart and for that, I am forever grateful. ♥️♥️♥️ Xoxo, Mary . . . . #selfloveisthebestlove #birthdaygirl #loveyourself #selflove #loveyoself #beyoutiful #selflovequote #selflovequotes #bodyconfidence #bodylove #selfworth #selfacceptance #selflovejourney

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Since I hit puberty at age 11 (anyone else an early bloomer? 😅), I got the hungry stares, suggestive comments, and vulgar cat-calls from men, as well as the envious glares, critical remarks, and judgments from women. Most of the attention I got made me feel unsafe and uncomfortable in my own skin. Every objectified act caused me to view my body through the lens of someone else rather than my own. It caused me to judge my body based on how others SEE it, instead of how I FEEL it. Even as I’m writing this, I get nervous that people might see this as “provocative”, but that’s only because I’ve been conditioned to believe that my body is the problem and that I must hide it or change it to avoid triggering others. But then I remember that in this moment I felt sexy, confident, and proud, and I refuse to let anyone take that away from me. Don’t dim your light, conceal your gifts, suppress your sexuality, or manipulate your body in order to make others comfortable. How others see you is not your problem! What matters is how you feel about yourself💕 . . 👉 Have you ever been ashamed of your body because you were worried others would judge you? 😬 From being dress-coded in middle school for showing cleavage to disrespect from guys, I’ve been there. But I promise it’s not your bodies fault. It’s our society that has some catching up to do. 🤷‍♀️ . . . . 📸Photo by @peoplebydahli #nobodyshame #womensempowerment #bodyconfidence #bodypositivity #bodyconfident #bodypositive #selflovewarrior #loveyourself #curvyconfidence #loveyourcurves #bodylove

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The amount of women who commented on my last post sharing how they’ve felt ashamed, anxious or insecure about their body while intimate with their partner makes my heart break. 💔 You know how they say, “you teach people how to treat you?” Well I want to take that one step further and say: You teach people how to treat you by how YOU love YOU. 🙌 People who come into our lives are mirrors: they show us exactly where we’re lacking, where we’re thriving and where there is work to be done. 👉 If you’re in an unhappy relationship wishing that the other person would just be nice to you my question is, are YOU nice to you??? 👉 If you’re feeling insecure about your partner seeing your tummy rolls or cellulite during sex, when was the last time YOU spent time with yourself naked? (I have a video on how to be comfortable in your skin on my YouTube and this is a HUGE one: spend more time naked with yourself!). 👉 And if your partner believes you’re beautiful and you reject it… Well shit. That’s a metaphor for all the times you reject yourself even though you ARE beautiful, you ARE worthy and you ARE sexy in the exact body you’re in right now.♥️ I’m not saying this to blame you but rather to empower you. Remember: the pain was not your fault, but the HEALING is your responsibility. 🙏 . . Which of these questions resonated with you the most? These are great journal prompts too! 😇 . . And if you want to get deep, intimate and loving with yourself on the magical island of Bali with me and 14 beautiful women on the same journey, there are 3 spots left for the Bali Self-Love Retreat! 😍 Cliiick the link in my bio for more info! 💕 . . . . #loveyourself #selflove #selfcaresunday #loveyourbody #confidence #selfconfidence #bodylove #bodypositivity #selflovewarrior #allbodiesaregoodbodies #nobodyshame #bodyimage

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Sometimes I think that my struggles with body-image and self-confidence weren’t “that bad.” Like I’ll write a caption for you, talking about my past with an eating disorder or my struggle with self-hatred and I think, “Maybe I’m exaggerating, maybe I never had an eating disorder…” And then I remember all the meals skipped when my stomach was growling and the countless minutes on the treadmill when my legs were in pain… And the pints of ice cream and jars of peanut butter I’d binge on before running to the toilet feeling physically sick and wishing I could reverse the “damage”… And the fight. Oh god, the fight. The fight for self-acceptance when people at the gym tell me to “get my body back” as if THIS wasn’t MY body. The fight for confidence when gaining nearly 50 pounds in one summer made me feel like I was the most worthless, ugliest and laziest creature on this planet. And the fight for #selflove especially when you look at yourself in the mirror and it feels fucking impossible. So no, you don’t need to be “sick enough” and no, you don’t need to have crazy before & after photos #edrecovery photos and NO, your pain is not made-up because you don’t need to be dying to start living!!! So keep fighting, sister. Because self-love is not just about you… self-love is a fight for us all. ♥️ . . 👉 Have you ever felt like your struggle wasn’t “bad enough” or that you weren’t “sick enough”? I’d love to hear your experience because this kept me silently suffering for far too long… 😔 . . . . #selfloveisthebestlove #bodyposi #loveyourself #lovethyself #bodypositive #selfconfidence #selflovewarrior #bodyconfidence #curvyconfidence #gainingweightiscool #edrecovery #bulimiarecovery #edwarrior #bodyimage

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There’s one thing that people miss when they say “just love yourself”… I mean if it was that easy, then we’d all be embracing our bodies at any size/shape/weight, not judging ourselves and others on appearance and not spending $90 BILLION USD on diet & beauty products (that’s actually the combined worth of those 2 industries 😳). The part that most people miss is the “just try to be okay with yourself” part. We live in a society where everything is about go, go, go, do, do, do, succeed, succeed, succeed and when we’re not going or doing or succeeding, it’s easy to thing that we’ve FAILED. In reality, just being okay is OKAY. It’s actually quite helpful to focus on being okay and accepting yourself BEFORE jumping into being confident and loving yourself. 🙏 Some mini-mindset shifts to make: ✨ Being comfortable in my body is necessary is the first step to being confident in my body. ✨ Sometimes just being OKAY is enough because I am enough. ♥️ ✨ Self-acceptance must come before self-LOVE. . . 👆👆👆 Do those help?? This whole #selflove thing can be really hard sometimes so I hope they inspire you to take baby steps in your journey. 🙏 . . And I have a new YouTube video on 6 tips to be COMFORTABLE in your own skin! 🤗 LINK. IN. BIO. 😘😘 . . . . #selflovejourney #selfloveisthebestlove #selfacceptance #selfcare #selfconfidence #bodyimage #loveyourself #loveyourbody #allbodiesaregoodbodies #curvyconfidence

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Mermaid thighs coming’ atchu to remind you that we’re not all meant to be a size 4 and that’s OKAY! 🧜‍♀️ Being a different shape/size/weight as someone else is what makes us ALL uniquely beautiful. 💕 Don’t let society convince you that you’re ugly if you’re not a size 4 because it’s actually society that’s ugly. 💁‍♀️ Also, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY FREAKIN’ HEART FOR 100K! 😭😭😭 I’ve been sitting with this for a week and (over)thinking about how to acknowledge this but it feels so surreal that I have no words!! I was going to pretend like I don’t care about social media and that it’s not big deal but the truth is, I care SO deeply and it IS a big deal to me. 🙏 All I ever wanted was to make a difference in the lives of others so thank you thank you thank you for being here and hearing me and contributing to this #selflove revolution, baby! ♥️♥️♥️ P.S. I tried to write 100K on myself but it looked waaaay better in my head than it does in the photo lol! 😅 How cheesy am I?! 😝 P.P.S. I’m vlogging for YouTube tomorrow! What would you like me to talk about? Body-image?? Self-confidence??? Let me know! ☺️ . . . . #allbodiesaregoodbodies #nobodyshame #embraceyourcurves #honoryourcurves #bodypositivity #selflovewarrior #loveyourself #selfloveisthebestlove #loveyourbody #bodyimage #selfconfidence #curvyconfidence

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A lot of times people choose to misinterpret my message and comment something like: “It’s good to love your body as long as you’re still healthy..”🙄 “Self-love and body positivity is just an excuse to be lazy.” Or my favorite: “Stop promoting obesity!”😒 I probably don’t have to explain to you what’s inherently wrong with these statements but I just want to use the hate as inspiration and tell you one thing: Self-acceptance will take you farther than self-hate ever will. 🙌 When I talk about being confident and loving yourself, I don’t EVER say “just give up on yourself and be complacent with where you are now.” No, no, no! In fact, I promote the opposite! I talk about diving deep into the inner work so you can overcome challenges and build strength, courage and resilience. I encourage shifting your mindset, habits and beliefs into one’s that empower you to do MORE amazing things and be MORE present in your life. And I continuously invite you to cultivate emotional, physical, spiritual and mental health but in a way that actually serves you (not society’s expectations of you). In case anyone makes you think that #selfacceptance is just an excuse to be “lazy” (or if your own mind goes there sometimes), remember that… ✨ You can’t criticize yourself into confidence. ✨ You can’t shame yourself into worthiness. ✨ You can’t hate yourself into happiness. Self-love is the ONLY way. ♥️ . . I’m curious, have you ever felt conflicted about accepting where you are now AND wanting to be better in some way? . . . . 📸 photo by @imdahlidurley 💕 #selflove #loveyourself #lovethyself #allbodiesaregoodbodies #morethanabody #nobodyshame #losehatenotweight #selfloveisthebestlove #selfloveclub #bodypositivity #loveyourbody

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My top 3 tips to be more confident in your body 💃🏽: . 1. Touch yourself. No, really, when was the last time you touched yourself just to FEEL yourself (not necessarily in the sexual sense, although that’s always an option lol 😉). Remember how I say “focus on your body EXPERIENCE rather than your body IMAGE”??? Feel what it’s like to breathe, to see, to touch, to feel…We’re so caught up with looking AT our bodies that we forget to feel IN our bodies. . 2. Dress up. When I was struggling with binge eating disorder I’d wake up the morning after a binge, look in the mirror and think “fuck it, since I feel like shit, I might as well look like shit too.” I’d proceed to put on an ugly pair of sweatpants, tie my hair up into something that resembled a coughed up fur ball, and run out the door wearing the remainder of the last day’s makeup. DON’T DO THIS. Dress up even if you don’t want to. Wash your damn face. Put makeup on anyways or whatever it is that makes you feel good. Don’t bully yourself into an even deeper hole by neglecting self-care and creating more reasons to feel shitty. 🙏 . 3. Express yourself. Okay this one is a bit more abstract but stay with me. If you’re not continuously expressing yourself — spiritually, emotionally, mentally — your self-confidence will inevitably tank.👎 Think of #bodyconfidence as a physical representation of your inner being so if you don’t live authentically, speak your truth or share your gifts with the world, you’ll subconsciously start resenting yourself and thus, your body. So speak up. Challenge yourself. Paint. Create. Dance. Sing. Play. Love… love (yourself) fully. ♥️ . . Did you like these 3 tips??? ☺️ To be honest, # 1 is my favorite so I invite you to put your phone down and touch yourself right now… grab your thighs or hold your belly and breathe deeply into that feeling of being alive. Did you do it? If you didn’t, DO IT NOW. And comment below “I AM TOUCHING MYSELF” because come on, it’s funny 🤣🤣 #Im12YearsOld #OhWell #NeverGrowinUp . . . . #selfconfidence #bodylove #selfloveisthebestlove #bodyimage #balibaby #honoryourcurves #embraceyourcurves #allbodiesaregoodbodies #loveyourbody #selfcare #confidence

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When I was training for bikini competitions, waking up at 4 AM to do fasted cardio and eating tilapia and broccoli all day, people would often acknowledge me for my dedication. They’d tell me how they admire my passion for fitness and how I “take care of myself.” They’d ask me what my secret was and say “I wish I looked like you.” They’d ask me about my diet and exercise regimen and how I managed to stay consistent with it. Everyone just assumed I was healthy because they saw was me eating “clean” food, exercising a lot and getting “results” (i.e. staying thin/fit). Dedication was a buzz word in the fitness industry and it came at the expense of my well-being. Now that I don’t have abs anymore, some people judge me as lazy, unmotivated, letting myself go, etc. (and to be honest, I used to judge myself like this too 😔). They don’t see that even though I’ve gained weight, I’ve also gained happiness, insight and experiences. Sure I’m not dedicated to my fitness anymore, but I’m dedicated to making a difference in this world, helping others and living a fulfilling life. I simply have different priorities that don’t involve obsessing over my body or spending hours per day chasing unrealistic and unhealthy beauty ideals. 🤷‍♀️ Accepting and loving your body as it is right now is NOT lazy. It’s simply refusing to buy into the BS of diet culture because you‘re more dedicated to who YOU want to be than who society wants you to be. 🙌 So if anyone tries to judge you for not trying to diet, lose weight or fit into the current beauty ideal, remember that there are more important things to be dedicated to other than your body. 🙏 . . I’m curious has anyone ever judged you in this way? Or better yet, have you judged yourself like this? . . . . #selfloveisthebestlove #selfacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #losehatenotweight #selfcare #mentalhealth #edrecovery #healthateverysize #healthynothungry #bodyimage #gainingweightiscool

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When I first started struggling with body-image my biggest pain point was my thighs. I hated the way they rubbed together when I walked and how they shook when I ran. I looked at other girls and wished my legs were as slim, smooth or slender as theirs. I spent much of my fitness days trying to “trim down” my legs with fasted cardio, high-intensity plyometric workouts and restricting my carbs and/or fats (depending on what BS diet my trainer at the time believed in 😒). And then one day in April 2016, the pain of hating my body was worse than the fears of gaining weight, feeling out of control and accepting that there’s more to life than being thin (hellllooooo identity crisis 😬). I realized knew that if I don’t stop torturing myself (and my poor body), I’d never find peace because chasing beauty ideals is a NEVER-ENDING battle. Think about it: 25 years ago in the 90s, people wanted flat butts and a straight, model-thin body and now the hype is all about big butts and hourglass curves (but not too much because that’s promoting obesity 😂) Beauty ideals change, people’s opinions change, and our bodies change… The only thing that doesn’t change is the fact that you go to bed with YOURSELF every single night and you wake up with YOURSELF every single morning. So you must fight for YOURSELF. Not for anyone (or anything) else. Surprisingly, the parts of me I used to hate the most are the same parts that I‘ve grown to LOVE the most because I fought to love them. I fucking FOUGHT to love these legs so maybe thick thighs don’t save everyone’s life, but thick thighs literally saved MY life. 😉 . . 👉 Have you ever had a breaking point where battling your body just wasn’t worth it anymore? And if not, what’s keeping you in the never-ending battle? . . 📸: my beautiful friend @imdahlidurley ♥️ . . . . #thickthighssavelives #allbodiesaregoodbodies #honouryourcurves #embraceyourcurves #bodypositivity #selfloveisthebestlove #bodypositive #bopo #edrecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #selflove #loveyourself

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Current mood: walking away from anyone who tries to tell me how to live my life 👋 #bye On a serious note, I have a question for you… Do you know how to set clear boundaries with people who try to suck you into diet culture (i.e. that friend who’s always dieting or that family member that is “concerned about your health”)? 🤔 I’m currently writing a loooong caption about how to deal with this, so I’d love to hear in the comments about what you struggle with the most when it comes to boundaries.🙏 . . Oh and how freakin’ cute is my new bikini from @sereiclothing ?! 👙 I love the way it fits and it shows off all my cute cellulite too! 😍 . . . . #selfloveisthebestlove #selflove #loveyourself #allbodiesaregoodbodies #everybodyisasummerbody #loveyourbody #embraceyourcurves #selfconfidence #honormycurves #effyourbeautystandards #bodylove

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When I was touched inappropriately by a family member at age 11 I made up a story that my curves cause me pain. It was a subconscious association, of course, but nevertheless I spent my adolescent years hiding my womanhood, afraid to receive that kind of attention again. Hence, the endless amount of time, money, and energy spent trying to make myself thinner, smaller, more invisible. And at the same time, I wanted so badly to be desired. I found myself trapped in this weird dichotomy of ‘please-pay-attention-to-me-but-not-too-much.’ Hence, my years competing in bikini competitions… I felt in control of the attention I received. I see this with my clients time and time again and it usually looks like one of 2 ways: (1) Losing weight to hide their body (2) Gaining weight to hide their body Until I took initiative to rewrite my story, accept the situation for what it was and forgive, forgive, forgive, I would always be blaming my body for the pain I endured. I’ve found healing, and now I need you to know this: The pain was NOT your fault, but the HEALING is your responsibility. No more avoiding. No more controlling. No more hiding. No more blaming your body, love. There’s freedom on the other side.🙏💕 . . . . #honoryourcurves #embraceyourcurves #baliliving #balilife #dametraveler #edrecovery #sheisnotlost #femmetravel #eatingdisorderrecovery #allbodiesaregoodbodies #nowrongway #bodypositivity #selflove

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